No Two Alike

Good morning my web friends! We’ve reached yet another Friday and somehow my mind can hardly fathom that it’s November already! And, I swear if even one of you mentions the “C” word (you know the one… the one surrounded by presents and baking, reindeer and jolly old men) I will scream! I am NOT ready for that!Just recently I was discussing with a friend the pro’s and con’s of using body types as a mode of determining how best to dress your body. I had mentioned to her that I’ve pulled away from using the body type system too strongly because I find it too unreliable. First, do a little research and you’ll discover everyone’s body typing is different. There’s no real consistency across the board. Second, everyone’s body is unique and so many people don’t fit neatly into any one category. Additionally, clothing pieces are unique, and little subtle differences of cut and embellishment can change the whole way a piece wears on one’s body. I may use someone’s “type” as a jumping off point if we already know it, but from there, and for the vast majority of time, I have other methods that I’ve learned, that I prefer to use, and that I find more effective.

For just a quick post, let me give you an example of a recently thrifted dress of mine that would be considered a no-no according to my body type and yet works for me, and I’ll explain to you why.

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My new Cupio cold-shoulder, boho shift dress

According to the average body type chart, I’m a rectangle. Basically this means I have no shape to speak of. I’m straight up and down. My 3 basic measurements – chest, waist and hips are within an inch or two of each other. I have no curves. Part of the problem with this is most descriptions of what clothes a “rectangle” should pick are written assuming that as a rectangle you are tall and willowy, or on the athletic side. I am neither. Much of the clothes recommended for me would not look good on me.

 

One item that I’m told I should just point-blank not wear is a shift dress. There’s no definition of shape, and thus, they say it emphasizes my existing lack of definition. However, I think this dress works great for me. Here’s why:

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  1. The cold-shoulder look draws attention up to my face (this is where you always want to draw attention), additionally showing off my shoulders, one of my better features. It opens up that area drawing the eye across from shoulder to shoulder making my shoulders appear wider, creating the beginnings of some curves.
  2. . The trim along the neckline emphasizes what the cold-shoulder just began: attention to face, drawing the eye across the shoulders….
  3. The black and white color is perfect for me. I’m a winter – the only season that can wear black and white, so I’m right in my color zone.
  4. The extra lace trim that goes down the center is placed to perfection. Though the dress itself is a shift, the lace is shaped in an A-line affect – which is a very flattering shape – so since the lace is lighter than the black dress, the eye is going to be drawn to the lace giving the illusion that I’m wearing an A-line dress, which looks great on my shape!
  5. Finally, I’ve added black tights and black knee-high boots with a slight heel. The unbroken line of black is going to elongate me, giving the illusion that I’m taller than I actually am, which will then, by default, make me look thinner.

And, on my own, I have solidified all of this by adding two statement jewelry pieces – one pin at the neck, the other my earrings – to further draw attention upward, as well as to add some color in.

So, we’ve broken the “traditional” body shape myth about rectangles wearing shift dresses. My point? There’s more to our bodies than fruit and shapes… we don’t all fit in a box.

If you’ve tried to use the body shape system and found yourself banging your head against the wall because you didn’t fit into just one category, don’t be discouraged! There’s more to you, too! More than a triangle, more than a strawberry… Look at your body as a unique entity and learn to emphasize the positive aspects rather than being afraid of what you think are negatives. What you consider a negative may just be what makes you special!

Until We Meet Again!

Ronnie

2 Replies to “No Two Alike”

  1. Thank you, Jodie! This is just one system that – the base is well- meaning, but too many of us just don’t fit in. There are too many exceptions and it can be so frustrating. I’ve found that if you look at your body first as a series of lines – this is a great system, because that looks at your body individually, but also looking at it as bringing out the positive points in your body vs. hiding negative things – we’re not forcing women to feel so bad about their bodies all the time.
    And, thank you about the dress! I fell in love with it! A Cupio dress thrifted for $1.50!!!! You gotta love it!
    Have a great weekend! – Ronnie

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