A couple of weeks back Mr. T, Tucker and I were quietly sharing living room space. Mr. T was watching t.v., Tucker was snuggled in by his side and I was doing some reading – a typical evening picture. (We’re pretty exciting people, as you can see.) Suddenly our silent night was disrupted when I broke into raucous laughter. Now you gotta understand, if this were Mr. T nobody in the house would have looked twice – he is known for his loud, boisterous, jolly laughing – but, me? I frequently find things funny or amusing and will silently smile to myself or give a small chuckle. I rarely belly laugh out loud. Mr. T was staring at me like I’d lost my mind and Tucker began barking madly, as if the sky were falling.
What brought on this unprecedented outburst of hilarity? Actually, I was doing my homework! As you know, last I updated you, I had just finished the book on Thrift Shopping. Happy, happy, joy, joy! Imagine my continued happiness when the next book was on dressing clients over 40! That’s me! That’s 3/4 of the people I know – my friends, my peeps! This is my wheelhouse! Then I started reading… It started off well, times have changed… we don’t have to dress like our mother’s… 60 is the new 40… yada, yada, yada… Then I read it, “When selecting bottoms for you client, there are a few items to avoid. The first is skinny jeans…” This is when I lost control and my fit of giggles, fed by indignation, just about had me on the floor. (Later they would also ban us from mini-skirts – unless, of course, you’re Madonna or Christie Brinkley, then anything goes!)
I began to think about all of the beautiful, fashionable, elegant women that I am friends with, particularly my fashion blogger friends, most of whom, like me, wear skinny jeans. They are out there impacting their world and making a statement about what it DOES mean to be a woman of style and grace over 40. It occurred to me that the people who should be defining what is “age appropriate” are the people of that age. That being said, I asked several of my fashion blogger friends if they would give their take on what dressing age appropriately means to them. Their responses are brilliant!
THE 60’s: Meet Terri from Meadow Tree Style
I dress for me, my body and my internal sense of design and balance. I dress for what Mother Nature happily or precariously throws my way. I dress how I want to be perceived wherever I’m going and for whatever I’m doing. As long as I keep to these values, I am dressing age appropriate for me. Of course, over time my style has evolved. While comfortable with it at age 68, I expect to still refine.
Being age appropriate is not something I think about. Know yourself and your style will follow. Anyway, fashion should be fun! One of the advantages of being grown-up is that each of us are free to discover their own style rules. My rules seem to be: dress the fantasy, play the part, not to take it too seriously and have a great time doing it!
The 80’s, 60’s & 50’s: Meet Jodie, Nancy and Charlotte from JTouchofstyle
Jodie: Now that I’ve been blogging, I have come to the realization that dressing appropriately for my age is hogwash. Not that we shouldn’t try to look nice, but I feel that any item can have a version that works for women of any age! Take leather for instance. All 3 of us have a leather skirt and I don’t think you’d look at any of us wearing them and think we were inappropriate.
Instead, I’ve been trying to concentrate on the fit and colors of my clothing pieces. I feel that those factors really make a huge difference in how we look. Besides the fact that I realize getting dressed should be a fun process, and we are allowed to evolve over time!! Yippee!!!
Nancy: Dressing age appropriately to me means not trying to look like someone significantly younger than you are. I would not want to dress looking too little girlish or like a teenager. But I could try to dress like a young woman but maybe have a longer hem to my dress and less cleavage showing!! I mostly would want to choose styles that were ‘made for me’. In other words, they really looked nice on me and made me stand out in a good way. I think I’ve learned through Jodie’s blog that it’s okay to stop trying to blend in and dress exactly how everyone else does.
Charlotte: As we age and our skin doesn’t look as good, we want to be more covered up–as our arms. Also hose instead of bare legs. I remember in tailoring we were taught that round Peter Pan collars were for little girls-Yet I have a designer jacket with a round collar–which is hardly noticeable in the wild print. Also taught that puff sleeves were for the VERY young. These were the things we were taught in my day; however, with time also comes the realization that things change. That’s been very eye-opening for me with Jodie’s blog.
The 40’s: Meet Chrissy from Granola & Grace
The 50’s… again!