Dealing With Hair-y Issues

I have issues. I know you are all shaking your heads saying I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But, I’m not referring to those issues! I’m talking about HAIR issues! I am having serious hair issues!

First, I come from a long line of thin haired women. And not just thin, but paper thin – literally, playing peek-a-boo with your scalp! Mine is no exception, though, I’ve managed it for many years, but now time and genetics seem to be catching up to me. Now add in the bariatric surgery. One of the things you have to be careful with post-surgery is the possibility of losing hair if you do not keep your protein intake high enough. I have noticed that if I let my protein slip the tiniest bit for even one day there is a noticeable difference in the amount of hair exiting my scalp. And it IS exiting my scalp – by leaps and bounds! Little clumps of hair litter my bedroom floor like lily pads across a pond. This is not filling me with joy.

I’m already using one of those shampoos. You know the ones that claim to help re-grow hair for the hopeless and desperate and only charge you the cost of your first born child. Of course, I’m taking a hair, skin and nails supplement. Though, granted, it’s the cheapest one from the Wal-mart shelf. I’ve, also, learned neat little tricks like “painting” the part in  my hair with an eye shadow that matches my hair color to make it look fuller. Don’t laugh – this one actually does help, but I’m probably keeping Cover Girl in business with the amount of brown eye shadow I go through! Still, my hair keeps disappearing and looks limp and scraggly.

So, I’ve become glued to my Pinterest pages  – even more so than usual – desperately trying to look for some answers to my dilemma. And what have I come up with? Layer your hair. No, don’t layer your hair. It will look scraggly. Razor cut your hair. No, don’t razor cut your hair. It will exaggerate the thinness. Use coconut oil. No don’t use coconut oil. It will weigh your hair down! I have found one contradictory article after another! No one seems to agree on what is the best thing to do!

Well, except for one small matter… EVERYONE says to cut my hair.

The awfulness that was my hair - 1985
The awfulness that was my hair – 1985

I have to stop here and take a breath because this is about the worst possible thing you could tell me to do. I LOVE long hair! I have always wanted long hair. When I was in school, my mom use to make me cut my hair short and I hated it. I looked at girls with long hair and envied them from the depth of my being. I knew when I was grown and had control of my own hair I would grow it long and keep it that way. Long hair, in my mind, said feminine, beautiful, sexy!

The awfulness that was my hair - 1983
The awfulness that was my hair – 1983

And I don’t think I’m alone in this thinking. So many women seem to attach a degree of their identity to their hair. Watch a few episodes of TLC’s “What Not To Wear”. Women will get a little put out when the hosts discard their wardrobe, but when the stylist tries to cut off their long locks you’ll see melt down after melt down! Tears fall like rain! Even the Bible connects a woman to the specialness of her hair, “But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering.” 1 Corinthians 11:15

And, so, my internal struggle continues – do I take the plunge and cut my hair for the sake of thicker looking tresses, or do I continue on my path of “home remedies”to fight the loss of my rapidly thinning strands? As my brain ponders this earth shattering, first-world problem, I’ll share with those of you who also struggle with this problem a few Pinterest finds that really do work:

My hair pre-changes
My hair pre-changes
My hair post- using these three tips
My hair post- using these three tips
  1. Condition your hair FIRST, then Shampoo. Strange as this sounds, I’ve noticed significantly less hair loss in the shower, and less tangling afterward. Make sure you’re conditioning only the ends of your hair, as well. DO NOT condition your scalp!
  2. Got2b Fat-tastic Thickening Plumping Mousse. This is the best volumizing  mousse I’ve ever used! The pin where I found this priced it at $6, but I found it at Wal-mart for $4.
  3. Batiste Hint of Color Dry Shampoo. I already was a huge fan of dry shampoos. Since oily, flat hair frequently accompanies thin, fine hair, dry shampoo is great for bringing it back to life. Batiste Hint of Color takes this to another level by adding color, thus, eliminating the need for my “scalp painting” with eye shadow. The original colored dry shampoo I saw suggested ran for $32, which just wasn’t in my budget. But I found Batiste at Rite Aide for $8. I’ve since found it at other stores for as low as $7. The color will get on your fingers as you rub it in, but it washes off very easily. I have quickly fallen in love with this product as the best dry shampoo I’ve ever used. It comes in dark brown, medium brown, blonde and colorless.

To cut or not to cut, what do you think?


2 Replies to “Dealing With Hair-y Issues”

  1. Ronnie, I’ve been losing hair for a while, but it does seem to have slowed down considerably in the past several month. Hairskinnails supplement, and believe it or not, Rogaine. A little goes a long way. I haven’t had long hair since I was in my 20’s. Not flattering to me at all. Just makes me look old. So I’m not sure having your hair short is the right answer, either.


    1. I never would have thought you had thin hair, Linda! Your hair always looked thick and full to me. I haven’t tried Rogaine. Do you use the foam? I use Nioxin shampoo/conditioner, but am thinking of switching to Bosley, which I read has twice the active ingredient as Nioxin or Rogaine. I guess the purpose of the cut is not to stop the loss, but that it would give the appearance of of thicker, fuller hair, just not sure I’m ready for that. 😀


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